Your relationship with your husband, your finances, being a stay-at-home mum or wife (when possible), and your housekeeping abilities all play a part in maintaining a traditional 1950s-style housewife role. We left off a few days ago discussing cleaning house and I promised some helpful checklists. Before I can get to those, however, there is one more thing we need to talk about. Self-mastery. It’s key to all the above but particularly important when we start to discuss routines. It’s also important to understand how cleaning house and your weight are related.
Self-mastery is a broad subject, and when it comes to the state of your marriage, it’s one of the most important because your husband wants a wife that he can adore and place up on a pedestal. He wants a wife who he considers to be a better person than he is. He wants to know that you are kind, loyal, patient, forgiving, honest, and loving. He wants to know that if he tries to shake you off of that pedestal by tempting you to do something wrong, you won’t fall. You will not lie, cheat, steal. You will not gossip or bad-mouth. You will not share a secret. You will remain unshaken. You are a woman of good and strong character.
Self-mastery is control over your thoughts, emotions, fears, actions, reactions, impulses, desires, and decisions. It’s having a strong enough will to carry through on doing what you know is right. It’s sticking to a healthy-eating or exercise program. It’s controlling your speech and not using foul language. It’s keeping confidences entrusted to you. It’s taking care of others and fulfilling all of your responsibilities. It’s refusing to take part in gossip. It’s being the type of person that you want others to be, or at least striving to achieve that ideal.
Easy? No. Anyone whose ever tried to stick to a restrictive diet can tell you that it’s not easy. Temptation is everywhere. But it is possible to improve on our current level of mastery, and that should be your constant goal throughout life.
We will discuss all the factors (and virtues) that contribute to being a woman your husband can adore throughout the coming weeks, but I put this blog post here because working on your self-mastery should come first as it directly affects all the other factors. A good place to begin working on mastering yourself and your thoughts is with follow through. And a perfect place to attack following through is with house keeping.
In comparison to some of the other virtues, keeping house requires far less personal sacrifice. It’s easier to take on. It’s measurable, and your success will bring you a level of pride and joy that will encourage you to take on the next area of self-mastery (whichever you should choose to work on next.)
So just like I did in my earlier post, I’m going to ask you to think differently. Change your mindset. Go into your new house-keeping routine thinking of it as a self-improvement mechanism and not just cleaning house. Think of it as the launching pad to becoming a virtuous woman. Think of it as a doable challenge that is paving the way for greater victories, and then prepare yourself for amazing things to come.
Tomorrow we begin. We’ll discuss basic cleaning, cleaning supplies (which are best anyway?), saving money, short cuts, tips, tricks, and most importantly routines. Leave a comment if you’re ready for the challenge!