Unabashedly Authentic You, Housewife
Because I’ve gotten active on this blog again, I’ve been getting lots of emails and messages from ladies, young and old, thanking me for doing what we do at The Modern Day 50s Housewife. I wanted to take a minute to thank all of you, too. You support me as much as I support you. This morning I wanted to be clear on something, though. I’m not here as an anti-feminist (although I feel that way at times and certainly come across that way at times.) No, that’s not my mission. I believe I am here to make sure that you feel free to be unabashedly authentic you, housewife.
My original intent with this blog page hasn’t changed. My purpose here hasn’t changed. I’m here to remind you all that choosing the life of a stay-at-home mom and wife is beautiful, honorable, and perfectly acceptable. I believe from the bottom of my soul that if more women had the opportunity and fortitude and grit to do what you do, then the world would settle back down a bit. It’s gotten completely out of control.
With all the advances in society, we lost something in the past fifty years. We gained a lot, for sure, but we lost a lot of the closeness between people and families that, I believe, are the bones that society is built on.
What will become of the next generation if we can’t salvage family traditions, and family values, and a sense of community? What will become of the world if we don’t teach our children about and protect our right to be who we each feel born to be–without filters! These kids are growing up in a world of mass opinion, unrealistic expectations, and make-believe realities created by social media filtering, and it’s frightening.
Your job is, in my opinion, one of the most important on the planet. You are there creating close bonds with your children where they can feel safe to be their authentic self in a world that is pushing them to be otherwise. You are supporting your husband and lifting him up in a world that wants to tear him down, and you are being the foundation upon which they all build. You are keeping it real.
And you are more than that!
What else do you do besides cook and clean and do laundry? I often see that you create small business opportunities, from home, supporting the economies of our households and your country. You volunteer, supporting others very selflessly. You become ambassadors of causes you feel strongly about, supporting the world. You do whatever your soul calls you to do.
You are important. And you are beautiful. As long as you, too, are authentic to you, and it’s that very thing that I wanted to stress this morning.
Please remember this. My page is here to support you in whatever you decide is right for you. You may lean far to the side of housewife. You may yearn for the kids to get a bit older so you can go back to your career. Or you may be something in between. I don’t care what you do, as long as it is authentic to you. There is no “perfect” housewife. Perfect is only you being perfectly you.
I, myself, am at a point where I do a lot outside of my home now that my children are all grown, and I love it! My heart is always at home, and my family is always my priority, but I have a couple of different home-based businesses that I enjoy immensely. That’s authentic to me. Now understand that I’d drop them like a hot potato if one of my family became ill or incapacitated in some way so that I could care for them, but for right here right now, those outside activities are a big part of my life. And that’s okay.
I also have three daughters, one of which is a very vocal feminist–almost to a local celebrity status. I purchased a “Feminist” bracelet for her for Christmas. It literally says Feminist. And she loves it. And I support her in that because it’s what is authentic to her, right now. (She swings from one end of the spectrum to the other.)
I don’t ever want you to feel afraid to express yourself here from wherever you stand within the spectrum. I write to the entire world of housewives, and I support that there are a wide variety of levels of what that means. You’re all perfectly perfect in my book.
Besides, it’s those differences that make us powerful. We are an army, and within each army there are different roles and positions to fill. We need you all just as you are in this apron revolution! So let’s do this! Let’s go disagree on how to clean the dickens out of something! <wink> Speaking of which, … it’s bedroom day. Did you change the sheets and start the washing yet?