Changes Changes Everywhere. And a Warning.
I did it. I attempted to take a 6-week break from our way of living and live instead like a modern-day woman and it didn’t work. I hated it. I felt frantic and out-of-control the whole time. So, this blog is about to get real. I mean really real about what exactly it is that we do in our home. How we live. What works. What doesn’t. And why we think every marriage or relationship needs to figure out individually what works for them. We choose a unique family dynamic. Unique. Just like every relationship out there. Each is different and carries with it all kinds of different backgrounds and baggage and beliefs and traditions.
If you are in a relationship, you owe it to the both of you to explore what works for you. Don’t get caught up in what society expects from you. Society writes a “one size fits all” plan. Society contributes to a ridiculously high divorce rate.
Another change you will see is that I am also going to be only writing when I feel like I have a good message to send. It’s not going to be about quantity. I won’t be trying to write every day or even every week. It’s going to be about quality. I’m not here to make money. I’m here to help other women who long to live like I do.
So how is that exactly? A brief outline.
Mr. C is 100% the Head of Household. He is the CEO, the boss, and the leader. He is primary dollar earner, chief protector, exterior home and yard care man, car care man, and financial planner. He is also responsible for making sure we both get our rest, good nutrition, and exercise and get to any necessary health care appointments. He is responsible for insuring that he and I are both living our best life. That means he has to look at not just his hopes and dreams, but mine too, and see to it that I am doing all I can to achieve them.
Lastly, he has the dreaded role of being disciplinarian. Our children are grown and moved out. That would be little ol’ me who he has to discipline– Not an easy task I can assure you. Yeah. More about that later.
If he is CEO, I guess you could say that I have the role of house manager; meaning, if it happens within these walls, I’m pretty much responsible for it. Cleaning, laundry, sewing and mending, cooking (and insuring our meals and snacks meet agreed upon standards, which for us is a low-fat Vegan lifestyle), decorating, family celebrations, caring for the grandkids and our aging parents and grandparents, parties, holidays, thank you cards, and all that kind of stuff. I also maintain the vegetable gardens outside. And I bring in side income as an artist. That’s my job. Well, all that plus I am to obey Mr. C like a good, old-fashioned wife. Or else. And I do. Most of the time.
This works for us. We like it.
From this point forward, all of my blog posts will be written with the assumption that you understand this. Sometimes I will post things that will appear to be insanely one-sided and chauvinistic. I may talk about our marriage contract (yes we have one.) I may even post about more serious things. You may feel distressed (I do not.) If you do not like any of my posts, that’s fine. You may have your own opinion, but I caution you not to bother with blasting me with your opinion about how I am setting the female population back by 50 years. It won’t change my blog. It won’t change my opinion, and it won’t change my life. Feel free to stop reading at any time. This blog clearly isn’t for you.
For the rest of you, feel free to post your comments and/or questions and I will do my best to answer them. I will not get into anything overly private, but I will be honest and open whenever possible.
Welcome back. I hope you missed me as much as I missed you!